How to use this worksheet
- Write each person’s concern in neutral language.
- Separate essential constraints from preferences and assumptions.
- Prepare evidence for two or three options.
- Agree a short discussion with uninterrupted speaking time.
- End with shared research actions rather than forcing immediate agreement.
Concerns to understand
What is each person trying to protect or achieve? Use neutral wording.
Options and evidence
Which routes are being discussed, and what evidence supports each?
Constraints and preferences
Which limits are fixed, which are flexible, and which need verification?
Next-step agreement
Who will check what, and when will you discuss the findings?
Create a neutral discussion agenda and action record. Do not frame disagreement as a diagnosis or assign blame.